Feng Shui Bedroom Tips: Create the Perfect Energy for Love
Most people have a sneaking suspicion of what’s inhibiting their love life. Whether it’s an unhealthy relationship with an ex, an unwillingness to be vulnerable, a fear of rejection or a specific “type” of partner, we all have our own theories when it comes to that nagging question: Why can’t I find love?
What may be less obvious are the Feng Shui love killers that exist within your own bedroom. Feng Shui has a powerful impact on your energy. Many people don’t realize that the energy they are inviting into their bedroom isn’t one that is conducive to a loving partnership. This guide to setting your bedroom up for love will introduce you to simple Feng Shui symbols to attract love, and all the things to avoid if you want love to flourish in your space.
Right about now, you may be asking, “How can the placement of my bed or the kind of art that I have in my bedroom affect my relationship?” It’s all about perception. You may not recognize it, but when you have your bed pushed up against a wall so that it’s only accessible from one side, that sends a message that your relationship is less accessible to one party. Or think about the art in your bedroom. Do the pieces depict couples, or are they mainly portraits of individual people? Listen, I love the colorful self-portraits of Frida Kahlo as much as any art lover, but the reason I suggest removing images like these from the bedroom is that they don’t portray a loving bond—and that’s the energy you want to cultivate in the bedroom.
Every element of using Feng Shui to attract love, though it may seem out there or completely minute, is rooted in the idea of shifting your space to hold symbols of passion and partnership. If you’re ready to get started, let’s go through your bedroom step-by-step to transform your love Feng Shui and get rid of any love killers!
Enhance Love With These Feng Shui Bedroom Tips
As I mentioned, the bed plays an important role in the energy of your room. You spend a lot of time in your bed, so you need to make sure that you’re setting yourself up in the most ideal position to enhance your love Feng Shui. Here are some simple ways to set yourself up for success:
- Use Light Colored Sheets: When it comes to Feng Shui bedroom colors, if you’re looking to attract love, you want to have a lighter color scheme. Sheets that are pink, white or pastel hues have a more loving and welcoming vibe. Black or darker colored sheets create a closed off energy, so if you have dark sheets, consider switching them out for new, lighter ones!
- Avoid Sleeping Under Beams: Try not to sleep underneath a beam that divides the bed. This represents a division between you and your partner. If you can, cover the beam with a curtain.
- Have Space Around the Bed: Having space around the bed ensures that it is equally easy for both you and a partner to get into bed. So if your bed is flush against a wall, try moving it out for easier access.
How to Cleanse Your Bed’s Energy
You likely clean your sheets and pillowcases, so why not clear the energy of your bed, too? Even the mattress should be energetically cleansed. Ideally, you’d get rid of the mattress that you shared with any partner you are no longer with, as this is believed to help you move on from the memories attached to it. However, mattresses are expensive, so I realize that not everyone is going to be able to do this post-breakup. Instead, you can open the windows of your room, let as much light in as possible, strip your bed and spread 2 to 3 dozen white rose petals over your bare mattress. In each of the four corners of your bed, place a jar filled with equal parts salt and water on the floor. Leave this in place all day to allow the salt + roses to purify and uplift the energy of the mattress. Then sage the space to cleanse away any leftover energy from the past relationship. Take the petals off your bed and return them to the soil of the Earth. Get rid of the salt water by simply pouring it into your toilet and flushing it away.
You don’t have to wait for a breakup to take advantage of this energy cleansing technique – you can also do this anytime you want to clear and cleanse the energy. For example, you could use this technique after a difficult conversation or argument with your partner, or as a routine clearing session just as you would clean the physical space.
You also want to avoid mirrors when creating your best Feng Shui bedroom setup. If you have a mirror that creates a double image of your bed, it is believed that it represents a third party interference. That can be anything from a nosy family member to an intrusive friend. To keep outside influences out of your bedroom, remove mirrors or cover the mirrors with a cloth when you’re not using them.
The art in your bedroom should inspire joy, and feature a loving relationship. Empty landscapes or images of one person, as pretty as they may be, are not ideal for cultivating love in this space. Try to find art that makes you happy and symbolizes the love you wish to attract or maintain so it can serve as a symbolic visual representation of your life.
Obviously, you want your relationship to be one full of life. Having dead plants in your space doesn’t exactly convey that message. When it comes to your plant life, the first step is to remove any dead plants from inside the room or outside the front door for better love Feng Shui. In general, it is recommended that for a Feng Shui bedroom, you don’t have plants in the room at all. If you do, keep them further away from the bed so as not to stir up too lively an energy. It is also important to note that round leafed plants are always preferable in the home to pointy plants, since the pointy edge can be piercing and energetically aggressive for you and your home.
Decorate in Two’s
When you decorate in pairs, it establishes balance and harmony within the space. The ideal Feng Shui bedroom will have two nightstands on either side of the bed, two lamps, and everything else like crystal candles and healing crystals set in pairs.
In general, you want to have crystals together in pairs when it comes to a total Feng Shui bedroom. It creates great love Feng Shui to see pairings throughout the room. That being said, it is also important not to overwhelm the space with too much crystal energy. When decorating your room with crystals, try to stick to just the essential stones you are called to at the moment. We suggest a Selenite under the bed for energy cleansing, crystals for sleep on the nightstand (such as Amethyst and Rose Quartz), and your love Feng Shui crystals in the love quadrant of your bedroom.
To find the love quadrant of your bedroom, go to the entrance of your room and look to the far right corner. That’s your love quadrant, and where your love crystal pairs should be placed.
Suggested Love Crystal Pairs
- Rose Quartz + Amethyst: For love and relaxation.
- Rose Quartz + Citrine: For love and joy.
- Rose Quartz + Aventurine: For love and luck.
As you can see, Rose Quartz is a MUST. As the stone of love, Rose Quartz will work to restore your heart energy and fill your spirit with gentle healing vibes. It’s the best stone you can have in your Feng Shui bedroom. I recommend pairing Rose Quartz with either Amethyst, Citrine or Aventurine, but you can create any crystal combinations that feel right to you! It just depends on the energy you want to cultivate in your spirit and love life.
Amethyst harmonizes well with the gentle energy of Rose Quartz. With its relaxing and clarifying energy, Amethyst soothes the spirit so that it can recharge at the end of a long day. Citrine also partners well with the loving energy of Rose Quartz. You’ll want this pairing in your space if you’re looking to create a warm, happy atmosphere. For luck in love, the pair you want in your bedroom are Rose Quartz and Aventurine. Aventurine brings in good fortune and will ensure that your love life always has luck on its side.
One additional tip for those looking to go the extra mile in using their Feng Shui bedroom to attract love is to have a love crystal altar set up in your room. By writing your intention down on a piece of paper, placing the crystals of your choice on top, and lighting a crystal candle to ignite your intention, you can send your wishes out into the universe and manifest your love intentions.
If you’re guilty of these love Feng Shui faux pas, don’t worry! Just make the necessary changes, and see how it affects your energy. Remember, the most important thing to focus on is bringing love and balance into your heart. Having a bedroom that fills you with love and a sense of harmony will allow you to better approach the rest of your day. So start making these little shifts in your room to see major shifts in your life!
For more information on love Feng Shui, head to chapter 8 in our book, Crystal Muse: Everyday Rituals to Tune in to the Real You.
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Heather Askinosie is a crystal expert and leading influencer on the power of crystals, Feng Shui and holistic healing. For nearly 30 years, she has been researching the scientific and spiritual aspects of energy. After studying with the best healers from all over the world, she has used the past three decades of her career to translate ancient wisdom into simple tools that anyone can use to transform their life. In 2000, she co-founded Energy Muse with business partner, Timmi Jandro. Energy Muse provides tools of empowerment and inspiration in the tangible form of jewelry and crystals. Her crystal teachings can be found in her book Crystal Muse: Everyday Rituals to Tune into the Real You as well as mindbodygreen, Well+Good, The Chalkboard Mag, and more. Learn more about Heather at energymuse.com.