Crystals for Sex and Intimate Relationships

Heather Askinosie|February 08, 2016

It doesn’t matter how many rose petals you sprinkle the bed with or how lavish your night in plans are—when it comes to setting the mood for great, intimate sex, you need to start by stirring the energy within. Opening your body, mind, and energy up to a reenergizing exchange sometimes means having to break through blocks. That’s where crystals for sex and intimacy can make all the difference.

Things like stress at work, worrying about kids, issues in the relationship, depression, anxiety and feeling tired are all ways that life can cause energy blocks. When the mind and spirit are concentrating on these problems, it can make it hard to summon your sensual chi. At the end of the day, sex is a release. So when your spirit is blocked, that emotional and physical release can’t happen. To improve your sexual experience, you have to focus on removing those blocks.

Sex crystals are powerful aphrodisiacs. Using crystals for sex, sensuality and intimacy will send vitalizing energy directly to your root and sacral chakras. By activating the chakra energy centers that control your desire and physical output, crystals for sex will create a shift in your emotional and subtle body. This stimulus will break through the blocks that have settled into your spirit from other areas of your life. Once free from stagnant, low-vibrational or negative energy, you open up space in your sacral chakra to give and receive a flow of intimacy and love. In this way, crystals for intimacy help partners to express their needs and wants, and to view the sexual relationship as a sacred bond.

Crystals for Sex and Intimacy

Red Jasper

Red Jasper invigorates the libido and prolongs sexual excitement. It energizes and cleanses the sacral chakra and its related organs. This stone is especially useful for increasing virility in men.


Orange Carnelian recharges the energy of the sacral chakra, enhancing sexuality and restoring vitality to the female sex organs. If you're growing bored in the bedroom or want to try something different, try this sex crystal. As a crystal for sexual energy, this stone will help you enjoy sexual experiences in new ways and help you break free from the everyday norm.

Smoky Quartz

Smoky Quartz helps you accept that sex is normal, healthy and enjoyable. It helps to cleanse your sexual centers so that energy can flow freely. Smokey quartz is one of the best crystals for sex for men because it increases their virility. With a refreshed sense of joy, smoky quartz will help you release negative energies such as jealousy, stress, or anger and help you feel happier in your own skin. When it comes to finding crystals for intimacy, you can’t go wrong with prioritizing your mind, body, and soul first so you can enjoy experiences with others.


Garnet dissolves any blockages that might exist in your lower chakras. It is also known as the stone of physical love and the relationship between loving partners. Use it to revive your intimate connection and increase passion in your relationship. Allow the crystal meaning to dissolve emotional blockages and provide you with a deeper romantic connection with your partner, both in and outside of the bedroom. 


Sunstone helps you during times of self-doubt, uplifts your spirits, and nourishes your sacral chakra. This crystal for sex can help you radiate positivity and provide you with the confidence needed to improve your sex life. As you look for ways to spice up your love life in the bedroom, sunstone will work to provide you with an abundance of positivity. 


Amethyst helps you clear your mind and focus on what’s in front of you. Not only will it help you sharpen your decision-making skills, but it can help you let go of negative thoughts that are affecting you physically and mentally. These meanings make amethyst a great sex crystal because it allows you to have a clear state of mind, you're better able to fully enjoy yourself during sexual experiences and give your attention to both your partner's and your own desires.

Rose Quartz

Rose Quartz opens the heart to love and trust between partners. When it comes to sex and intimacy, allowing yourself to give and receive love, no matter the pain you’ve been through, is essential. As one of the most popular crystals for sexual energy, rose quartz can help you approach all situations with love and grow a deeper understanding of others. It also helps increase self-love, leading to a better understanding of your own needs and more willingness to clearly communicate these needs to your partner, without any fear of judgment or shame.

Rebalancing Your Sacral Chakra with Crystals for Sexual Energy

Our Sacral Chakra plays an integral role in our sexual experiences. Located at the base of your pelvic bone, the Sacral Chakra is associated with passion, creativity, motivation, and our relationships with the ones we care for most. It also governs our reproductive organs and fertility. When your sacral chakra is balanced, you may feel deeper connections in your relationships, enhanced sexual experiences, and higher levels of self-esteem. 

If you feel your Sacral Chakra may be blocked, you can always look into sacral chakra healing. Utilizing sex crystals and their healing properties through meditation and crystal healing practices can help you explore your own body and emotions on a deeper level. You’ll also be able to connect with your sexual energy and allow yourself to feel more connected with your wants and needs in the bedroom. 

Prioritizing crystals for sex can not only lead to better sexual experiences but an improvement in the way you express your emotions on all levels. When you rebalance your sacral chakra, you allow yourself to grow a deeper connection with your wants and needs. 

 Listen to your body. What do you need more of? Are you putting the needs of others ahead of your own? Is there something you aren’t getting from your relationships? When you create a healthy relationship with yourself, it can lead to healthier relationships with the people in your life.

How to Use Crystals for Sex and Love in the Bedroom

Place them in the Pillowcase or On the Nightstand.

Crystals for sex and intimacy can be tucked into your pillow or placed on your nightstand so that they continue to rejuvenate your energy all night long.

Take a Love Bath.

Place these sex crystals in a bath with you so that you can soak in that sexually awakening energy. You can even try it with your partner for an extra dose of romance!

Place them on your body.

You can also work with them on the body, which will have a more powerful effect, since you’ll be able to directly place the stones over the sensual chakras.

Crystal Massage Ritual for Love and Intimacy

If you and your partner are ready to enhance the intimacy of your sexual experience, perform this simple, sensual crystal massage practice before hopping into bed. This crystal massage will stimulate an intense flow of energy, so that you can enter the next phase of your love practice from an even higher level.

If you’re single and looking to attract love, you can do this same crystal massage to open yourself up to receive this energy. This is a way of manifesting what energy you would like your future to hold. A crystal massage is also an excellent self-love practice, because it forces you to take the time and care to rejuvenate your love energy centers.  

What you’ll need:

-1 rose quartz, 1 smoky quartz, 1 red jasper and 1 carnelian tumbled stone


  1. Gather your rose quartz, smoky quartz, red jasper and orange carnelian tumbled stones.
  2. You can do this alone if you’re looking to attract love, or you can do this with your partner. Start by laying on your back in a comfortable position.
  3. Massage the area above your heart and place a rose quartz stone on your heart to open it to giving and receiving love.
  4. Then, massage your inner thighs and place smoky quartz between them so that the energy of passion can flow freely.
  5. Next, massage the area around your pubic bone and place the red jasper over it to stimulate the libido and energize the root chakra and sacral chakra.
  6. Finally, massage the area just below the navel and place the orange carnelian on your second chakra to recharge your sexual energy.
  7. Leave the sex crystals on for 10-15 minutes to feel the energy of the stones working with your body.
  • Carnelian
  • Garnet
  • GarnetMeaning
  • passion & Creativity
  • Red Jasper
  • Smoky Quartz
Heather Askinosie

Heather Askinosie

Heather Askinosie is a crystal expert and leading influencer on the power of crystals, Feng Shui and holistic healing. For nearly 30 years, she has been researching the scientific and spiritual aspects of energy. After studying with the best healers from all over the world, she has used the past three decades of her career to translate ancient wisdom into simple tools that anyone can use to transform their life. In 2000, she co-founded Energy Muse with business partner, Timmi Jandro. Energy Muse provides tools of empowerment and inspiration in the tangible form of jewelry and crystals. Her crystal teachings can be found in her book Crystal Muse: Everyday Rituals to Tune into the Real You as well as mindbodygreen, Well+Good, The Chalkboard Mag, and more. Learn more about Heather at


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