Crystals for Anger: How to Shift from Anger to Love
Anger is a very powerful emotion, and a valid one. But sometimes our anger can take control of us and lead us down a negative path. Expressing anger is important to our emotional well-being, but so is releasing it and learning to move on from it. When you’ve let pent up anger fester inside for too long, or you haven’t yet learned how to manage feelings of anger to prevent them from taking control of your life, it might be time to learn some tools to help you process and express anger in a healthier way.
This mini crystal program for anger will explore how to shift out of anger and into a new state to help you to clear, heal, and reprogram your energy. This program includes reflecting, journaling, energy clearing, and intention-setting to help you arrive at a new, higher state at the end of it all. You can use this program for long-term emotional healing, or as an on-the-spot treatment for an outburst of anger. If you’re ready to take control of your anger instead of letting it control you, let’s get started.
Reflection & Journaling
Why it matters: Before you can move past and heal from an experience or emotion, it’s helpful to take some time to understand why you feel that way and how that emotion impacts your life. Through these prompts and journaling exercises, you will gain a deeper understanding of how anger manifests in your life. This is the first step to healing.
How to Get Started: Reflect on the past month and answer the following prompts by writing honestly and without judgement. DO NOT EDIT YOURSELF. We all have the tendency to do this on paper. But think about it this way: would you rather these thoughts and feelings be out on the paper or stuck in your energy field?
- How is anger impacting your life?
- When was the last time you experienced anger in the last month?
- What does anger look like when it's happening to you?
- When you are in a state of anger, how do you react? Do you avoid, raise your voice, cry, shut down, etc?
- How did that experience make you feel on a physical and emotional/mental level?
- How would releasing and managing anger change your life?
Crystal Tip: Hold a crystal of your choice (we love Clear Quartz!) in your non-writing hand while you journal to bring more clarity and insight to your reflection.
Create A Timeline of the Emotion
Why it matters: This exercise guides you to create a timeline of how anger has presented itself in your life. By the end of this exercise, you will be able to see the timeline of anger throughout your life and identify the patterns and behaviors that go along with it, which makes it easier to heal yourself from this emotion and those experiences.
How to do it: Download the Timeline Your Anger worksheet to go further back in time – as far back as you can remember. Pocket any experiences, instances, incidents or even thoughts that you can remember into the age that they occurred.
Crystals for Anger
The best crystals for anger are the ones that help you shift out of that state and into one that supports you better. Since anger can manifest itself differently in all of us and there are many different degrees of anger, there are a variety of crystals for calming anger that can support your intention.
One of our favorite crystals for anger is Rose Quartz. This stone is especially powerful for shifting from anger to love, the highest vibration on the planet. By filling your energy field with the highest vibrations of light and light, this rosy pink stone helps you snap out of your rage state and guides you toward a more loving, soft, and gentle one. By tapping into your heart and getting out of your head, you can lead with love and approach the person or situation at hand from a higher perspective.
Some of the best ways to connect with Rose Quartz for this intention is to place it over your heart and take 6 deep breaths, as 6 is the number that represents love. As you breathe in, inhale love. As you exhale, release anger. Let the crystal connect you with the energy of love and raise your vibration so you can rise above any anger you might be holding onto. While you can use any shape or size, a tumbled stone or touchstone are two of our favorite shapes to use for this practice. To keep the energy flowing, you can also place a stone in your purse or pocket to keep the energy of love with you wherever you go.
Besides Rose Quartz, there are three other crystals to help with anger that we call upon for specific intentions::
- Hematite for shifting from frustration to satisfaction.
- Aquamarine for shifting from irritable to easygoing and embracing a “go with the flow” mentality.
- Aragonite for shifting from being mad to being calm.
- Epidote to heal any deeper rooted betrayal, feelings and emotions.
Clearing Anger with Selenite
Why it matters: After reflecting, journaling, and time-lining this emotion, it’s time to clear it away and release the stored experiences from your energy field. Selenite is the perfect crystal to support this process because it has a purifying effect. With Selenite in hand, old programming and outdated belief systems can finally be exposed, shedding light on what you’ve been hiding in your mental closet all these years so you can begin to clear them away. It replaces the lower vibrations with the energy of light and positivity.
How to do it: Hold your Selenite wand in your right hand and make a fist. Hold your Selenite about 6 inches in front of your fore- head and your left hand about 6 inches in back of your head. Now switch the placement of your hands - left in front and right in back - in a sweeping motion over the crown of your head. Repeat this motion as you visualize the Selenite clearing your mind of any cluttered thoughts.
Crystal Tip: For a deeper energetic release, use a Black Kyanite crystal to cut the cords with anger after you’ve cleared your energy with Selenite. The sword-like energy of Black Kyanite cuts any remaining energetic attachments to experiences or feelings of anger so you can fully release it from your life.
Program Your New State
Why it matters: As a final step, it’s time to replace anger with a higher vibrational frequency. To shift out of a state of anger, this last step will guide you to reprogram yourself at a cellular level with the energy of love and light. Here’s where you’ll choose one of the crystals for anger discussed previously to use as your touchstone for a new state of being.
How to do it: Hold your crystal of choice over your heart and say out loud or in your head, “I am filled with love and light.” Repeat this intention for a total of 6 times.
Wearable Crystal Jewelry for Shifting from Anger to Love
To harness the power of this crystal program on the go, we recommend wearing crystals for anger in the form of jewelry. Through keeping the stones close to your body and your heart, you can ensure that the energy of love is always available to you so you can tap into that frequency whenever you need to. Since Rose Quartz holds this energy, creating a wearable combination featuring Rose Quartz is the perfect way to support your intention.
The ultimate Rose Quartz crystal jewelry to align with the energy of love is the Heart Opener. The Heart Opener necklace and bracelet both work by filling your entire energy field – mind, body, and spirit – with love and light. By opening your heart and softening your spirit, these pieces allow you to connect with your heart space and your personal center of love.
To complement the Heart Opener, a set of Rose Quartz earrings is the perfect addition to your wearable combination of stones for anger. They offer an energy of love to address the higher chakras so you can fill your mind with loving thoughts and do away with the lower vibration ones. The earrings also help you tap into your higher self and the part of you that is connected to the energy of love.
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Heather Askinosie is a crystal expert and leading influencer on the power of crystals, Feng Shui and holistic healing. For nearly 30 years, she has been researching the scientific and spiritual aspects of energy. After studying with the best healers from all over the world, she has used the past three decades of her career to translate ancient wisdom into simple tools that anyone can use to transform their life. In 2000, she co-founded Energy Muse with business partner, Timmi Jandro. Energy Muse provides tools of empowerment and inspiration in the tangible form of jewelry and crystals. Her crystal teachings can be found in her book Crystal Muse: Everyday Rituals to Tune into the Real You as well as mindbodygreen, Well+Good, The Chalkboard Mag, and more. Learn more about Heather at energymuse.com.